Well I decided I didn’t want to wait until Mother’s Day or until it was too late and these are the things my mother taught me and things I appreciate about my mom:
It’s ok to feel down and frustrated at life, eat some Mac n’ Cheese and some ice cream and wallow.
It’s ok to only be able to afford some top ramen until payday. That doesn’t mean you are a failure.
Just because you cant afford a 5 star meal for your kids and ya’ll are having Kraft Mac n’ Cheese for dinner, doesn’t make you any less of a mom, your kids have no clue that your struggling and they probably love the Mac n’ cheese anyways.
Maybe not necessarily for slow drivers or people who take forever to order food at a drive thru, but overall patience with life.
Patience with my kids. Patience with myself.
Patience is a learned behavior and my mother taught me to be patient and things will happen when they need to.
Whether good or bad. Words have consequences and meaning and to always make sure you know the difference and use your words wisely.
My mom taught me that just being there is sometimes the best thing. No words have to necessarily be spoken, but a hug and your presence can be just enough.
Lord knows my mom has been through it all between my brother and I, but now that I have two daughters of my own.
She is definitely my guiding reference for how to keep my cool and deal with the terrible twos and currently the “threenager” years.
What I mean is, my mom always told me growing up I can choose to be and do anything I set my mind too.
She was also a realist and when I said I wanted to be a singer, she would say, but honey you may sound good in the shower, but lets keep that there.
She didn’t mean it in a mean way, but it was her way of letting me dream, but keeping me grounded and real about my strengths and weaknesses.
This goes hand in hand with number 4, but this one is mainly for those teenage years.
My mom always told me whenever I would go to a party or friends house, “if you drink, DO NOT DRIVE, call me and I will come get you wherever you are, whatever time, no questions asked”.
She was stern about this one.
Granted I never ended up in the situation where I needed to call her and come get me, but just knowing there was that option made me feel that if I ever did make that dumb mistake, then she would be there.
No questions asked.
My mom is very big on doing things herself. And if you know her, then you know this is 10000% true. She will start her own projects and do it herself.
She would install everything from a new sink, to her own tile flooring to redoing her whole kitchen by herself! She is big on DIY projects and she taught me to install things myself too.
Which goes hand in hand with my next point…
She taught me at a young age to be independent and make my own decisions and follow through with those decisions.
That I didn’t need anyone to be happy and I could do good all by myself.
Now that’s not to say she is a “you don’t need no man” type of woman, but she will tell you that she’d rather do it herself than wait for a man to do because it would never get done if she waited.
My moms a funny one. Now she’s not against marriage and having someone to love and help with things, not at all, but she is all for teaching independence and she definitely did just that.
Whether on yourself or someone else. Looks don’t matter. What matters is how a person treats you and vis versa.
She taught me to be comfortable in my own skin. That I don’t need to look a certain way to be loved and respected.
That I just need to be myself and be confident in my own skin with who I am. She would tell me to “rock that swimsuit” shortly after having my second daughter.
I would say its too tight or it doesn’t flatter my stomach or arms and she would say “who cares! It’s cute! Wear it!”
I appreciate that, even if I still struggle with it.
My mom is very sarcastic and you know that to be true if you’ve ever even just met her.
My mom is very sarcastic, but in a funny way. Not in a cruel, dry mean sort of way. More of a funny snarky commented type of woman and I love that about her.
I was and am always a dreamer, guess its the Pisces in me.
I have always been a dreamer and when I’d watch love movies in high school she would roll her eyes and tell me, your life isn’t a movie sweetie, love doesn’t always happen like that.
Be independent. And I love her for that. Because as much as I wished my life was like the movies, I ended up creating my own fairy tale instead.
Don’t always take life too seriously. And if you can’t laugh at yourself then your too harsh on yourself. You have to just laugh some stuff off because its just not worth getting mad at.
But it does buy Kate Spade 😉
You know the basic tools to being an adult and surviving this world.
But it helped with being organized and learning organizational hacks.
Treating others with respect and sometimes looking at the other side of things before making a judgement or decision.
My mom loves essential oils and got me into them too. She creates her own soaps and lotions.
She’s all into the essential oils and crystals and got me hooked too. Now before you go and roll your eyes, research it and just try it. I promise it’ll change your life.
I’m not saying scare them or give them TMI but be honest and open and most importantly be REAL with your kids.
Give them real and honest answers, especially if they ask as teenagers if you ever drank before 21, be honest.
Don’t shame them because chances are what they are asking about, you’ve done yourself or thought about doing.
And bonus, wouldn’t you rather them ask YOU not their friends about certain issues/topics.
I learned from the greatest. All these things listed above and oh so much more has shaped me and taught me how to raise two strong little girls and be the best possible mom to those little firecrackers.
I hope these provided you with a little insight and laughter.
These are just a few of the things my mother taught me. What are some things that your mother taught you?
I also have a “Wishes for my Daughters” post too. Read that here.
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